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Contrary to popular belief, procrastination does serve a purpose in your life. And that is why this is a lesson in procrastination which you will not want to miss. You may have been fighting procrastination for as long as you can remember. However instead of offering you a miraculous cure for procrastination, let’s take a step back from your present to better understand the presence of procrastination in your life.

Like most people, you are often overstretched in areas of your life. Currently you are playing several different roles at any one time, e.g. roles of a productive employee, a filial child, an understanding partner, a caring parent, a helpful friend and many other more which you seek to do well and excel in. However, there are just too many roles for you to fit into at any one time.

And in addition to that, you are obliged to adhering to the duties of every roles, their respective “shoulds” and “musts”. The truth is regardless how well you plan your time, you only have a limited time and energy every day. There is only this much of things you can seek to accomplish daily. However, most “procrastinators” fail to realize that.

Instead, day after day, they try to accomplish all their tasks in one day. And when they fail, they beat themselves up and feel that they procrastinate in completing them.

Any time management experts will tell you that attempting to do everything within a short period of time is suicidal.

Unknown to many, we are all procrastinators in this modern world. Everything you do carry with it an opportunity cost. When you decide to invest your time and energy in playing a particular role well, you will be neglecting your other important life roles at the same time. And when you fail to meet those “shoulds” and “musts” which come along with those roles, you feel that you have not done enough.

Thus, rather than constantly beating up yourself for not doing enough and hoping for a heaven-sent cure for procrastination, why not look into yourself and determine what you truly value in your life.

By determining the priorities of the different roles in your life, you will better understand what you truly treasure. And it does make sense to allocate more time and energy in fulfilling those more important roles to your very best while giving less attention to other less crucial roles, isn’t it?

That will eliminate the need for you to want to do everything within a short period of time and along with it the misconception of procrastination.

This is a lesson in procrastination which took many people a long time to understand.

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Many of the pioneers of TRUE inner change(F.M. Myers, Errickson, Bandler, Grinder et al) were aware of the POWERFUL conditioning our inner dialogue has on our outer behavior. Much of the framework of hypnosis for example, relies on tapping into the innermost cognitive structures of the subliminal mind and releasing “loops” of self destructive, doubting or otherwise counterproductive personal behavior.

Some eastern philosophies, for example, believe that your KARMA, or deep seated soul level destiny is firmly ROOTED in the subliminal self, where it holds, protects and maintains these “loops” for lifetimes until they can be properly excised. Here you will see some therapists literally using what is called “regression therapy” to hypnotize a patient to PAST lives where these fears and doubts can be confronted at their source. And regardless of what you believe is REALLY happening, the results of this sort of therapy are ASTOUNDING and life changing. ( as has been written about and documented by many prominent Psychiatrists like Dr. Brian Weiss in “Many Lives, Many Masters” and other best selling books)

As you know your intent directs the flow of energy in your interactions with others. So doesn’t it just make sense to have in mind a really clear and strong intent before you engage in your powerful persuasion mission. If you were to think about the person(s) you want to persuade what comes to mind in regards to the benefits they
will gain from your persuasion? Of course your ‘persuasive pitch’ will be received much more receptively if your intent is strongly biased to their benefits. So stepping into their shoes what benefits can you perceive from their angle and looking at the situation as if you were watching a movie what other ideas come to mind?

Having some idea of what the other person(s) want and keeping that positive intention nice and strong in mind when interacting with the person(s) will automatically create a ‘good vibe’ between you, thus creating that well known fundamental persuasion skill - Rapport!

So just what is ‘the ultimate truth in persuasion’? Well the fact is in the art of persuasion, or indeed anything, there
are many ways of doing things, many perspectives, techniques, methods and tools. The point being, by using it and paying attention to feedback, will it get you the results you want?

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Managing anger is a full time occupation for some people. Their anger and rage episodes seem to control their lives making relationships with family, friends and coworkers difficult at best. They often take out their frustrations on other people. Road rage is a growing problem everywhere, as more drivers hit the road and take out their frustrations on others. Sure we all get angry at times and it is even healthy if in the right circumstance. Anger management is about knowing how anger affects you, knowing the consequences of uncontrolled rage and hopefully, learning some anger management techniques.

Anger aggression can happen for various reasons. In children it often manifests itself after or during an emotional trauma such as the loss of a parent or parents divorcing.

In adults one of the most common reason is a general irritation at some other situation that may be out of your control. Take for example a problem at work. You may be holding back from showing your feelings toward a frustrating co-worker or a boss. You bury the anger until a time comes when you take it out on someone else. How many times have you honked your horn or cursed at a fellow driver for a mistake made while driving? That one poor soul becomes the epitome of all the things wrong in your life. Or it may be teen anger that has you frustrated. You do not know how to deal with your child during one of his or her outbursts so you take it out on your spouse.

Anger management is extremely important to your sense of well-being. There have been far too many people injured due to rage. This includes shootings resulting from road rage gone bad. It is also about spousal abuse. The emotional and psychological issues are immense but there are physical issues as well. Adrenaline rushes happen, but becoming an adrenaline junkie feeding off the rush from anger can lead to high blood pressure, stroke or even a heart attack.

Once you have made the determination to take the steps to defeat your uncontrolled anger problem, you will be able to effectively undergo the anger management courses. This applies to teen anger as well as any others in your family or network of friends who need anger management guidance. The underlying issues of rage can be devastating to family and friends. You owe it to them and yourself to get help. There are counselors who are familiar with rage issues and they can help you find the resolution that you so desperately need.

The real nature of hypnosis in fact relies on the human psychology. Its a way to be able to manipulate ones mind in different ways. When a subject is being hypnotized, he is not in a zombie-like state where he is forced to obey the masters orders. In fact, he has the free will of doing what ever he wants, but choose to follow what the master tells him to do. A way of manipulating the human mind.

Hypnosis can be used for treating anxiety disorders, fears and phobias, alleviating pain, reducing stress, building confidence, depression, weight loss, smoking cessation and even for better performances in sports. The list of uses for hypnosis can seem endless!

The great thing is that you can even learn to use it yourself. This method is known as self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis can be tremendously relaxing as well as effective.

You can even use professional scripts and listen to your own voice to maintain what you’ve already learned. It’s a good idea to use hypnosis as part of your routine, just like exercise.

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By Greg Katz

It’s easy to say that what counts is not the way a person looks like but who they are on the inside. In a perfect world that would be true, but unfortunately many people do judge a book by its cover. Many of us have illnesses that impact our physical body in a way that is noticeable to the outside world. I don’t believe there is anyone that doesn’t have a bit of narcissism and that can play head games with you following an illness diagnosis.

Let’s face it we don’t live in a polite culture. How many times have you witnessed someone pointing, whispering or staring at you because of a physical attribute? Most of us have encountered a woman going through chemo that is wearing a head scarf or staring at a bald woman. Those in wheel chairs or walkers may be given the look of pity, not very empowering.

All too often our identity is wrapped around how we present our physical self to the world. Others may pair that with their interpersonal skills as a means of making their mark on the world. Your illness may impact one or both of these and therefore knock the wind out of your sails. How can you cope with the shift in your physical body?

Start off by having an intimate relationship with your body. It’s important for you to know every inch of your body; this is for medical as well as personal reasons. Begin a dialogue with your body giving it encouragement and thanking it for how it has support you up to this point. The conversation may continue lead to a pact where you contract with you physical body to do everything in your power to preserve the body’s integrity and work toward wellness.

Take an inventory of the things you’re still able to do physically. Focus on your abilities not your challenges. The challenges may be goals you work toward achieving, but it’s your abilities that will provide the self-esteem and self-worth to keep working toward the achieving the challenge. When you acknowledge and utilize your assets instead of focusing on your liabilities you increase your quality of life and inspire creativity to make the most of those assets.

You may want to have conversations with friends and family about how they see you in the roles you hold. What qualities make them want to be around you? How can you capitalize on that energy and maintain healthy and supportive relationships.

Our identities do change over time. They seem to shift quickly following a chronic or life-threatening illness diagnosis. Our culture fuels the fire for you to focus on the inner victim, but that identity is not supportive of your journey to wellness. Understand that you are not your illness. The illness is something you have; not something you are!

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